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Dress Woes

Ok, I’ve been working at a frantic pace at work… working in events for a living means that sometimes working on my own big event takes a back seat. Having recently started a new job, I’ve accepted that it will be this way for a little while, until things die down. So when I get those moments of zen to focus on my own wedding, I get excited.

 

So imagine how pissy I was when that zen was ruined a little bit by Alfred Angelo.

 

Some back story: My wedding dress came in last month, and in gush of excitement, I rushed over to the store with a bridesmaid and friend to pick it up. I could not wait to see it again!
Good thing was, it fit perfectly! Bad thing was, it was stained. Not terrible life-altering stains, but little spots in a few places. The kind that, once seen, cannot be unseen. I stood there in my dress, in the shop, unsure of what to do. Fortunately the store manager took charge and offered to rush order me a new dress. I explained that rushing wasn’t neccessary, but she insisted. I was grateful for the time and attention she was taking to get this right, so I accepted.

 

Two days ago, I got a phone call: new dress is ready! So after a long exhausting week of intense work stuff, I headed back to AA (ha! get it? AA! Or is that a bad joke?) for my moment of zen.

 

The consultant brought the dress out for me to inspect, and I was sure it was going to be fine, but gave it a once-over, just to be on the safe side.

 

What I found was: hair. and dirt. Like my dress had been drug across a dirty floor. When I say hair, I mean HAIR: sticking to the chiffon, woven into the fabric, peeking at me from under the train. It was everywhere. The dirt was loose granules that fell right off when I shook it. I was a little surprised, but didn’t think much of it until I noticed the privacy panel in the back (which was missing from the original dress) was odd-looking, like it had been touched by too many dirty hands. And there was a light pink stain, almost the color of pink lemonade. So weird.

 

So I finally asked, “Did someone try on my dress?”, wondering if maybe there was a bride of similar size that had come in and wanted to try on the style. The consultant looked at my like I was insane.
When I mentioned the hair and the dirt, I got another odd look, and then that patient, tired, expressionless mask came across her face, which tells me that she thinks I’m overreacting. Then she told me that there’s lots of hair in the back and the dress could have picked up hair, and she inspected the dres herself. Now I feel like an a-hole for saying anything. Even though as she’s saying the words, she’s picking a knot of hair out of th dress fabric. I showed here the stains. I felt bad… why was I apologetic???

She told me that since I wasn’t going to be satisfied with the dress, or be convinced that no one had worn it I should just order a new one. So I’m left feeling like an awkward need bride. How crazy is it to have to order a third dress???? That is out of control. I don’t even know what to do. I told her that if they could remove that stains, I’d be fine with that, so for a second time, I left AA without a dress.

 

I’m really bummed, and feeling a little like people would think I’m being a bridezilla. Not once did I yell, raise my voice, or was rude, yet I felt like I was inconveniencing the consultant by pointing out that something was wrong with the order. I just don’t want a dress that already looks like it’s been through some things… I want the dress that I marry D in to be PERFECT. And I sure as hell don’t want it to have some stranger’s hair follicles knotted into the bodice.

 

Am I being crazy???

 

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What I want to look and feel like in my wedding dress.

Things That People Tell You That Might Not Matter:

  • A lot of wedding dresses will not be in your size (that’s ok because everyone there is in the same predicament)
  • “That dress looks great for your body type!” Yeah, if I’m a 65 year old matron renewing my vows… take people’s feedback into consideration, but pick what YOU like.
  • “Wedding dresses should be white!” Eh. I think this is subjective… but my dress will probably be white. LOL.
  • “Bridal consultants are there to help you find the dress of your dreams!” Hmmph. Mine was super helpful, but there were at least two other coordinators that, in their urgency to help other brides almost elbowed me out of the way while I was modelling dresses for my friends.

This is what I probably looked like in my dress.

Things That People Don’t Tell You But Should:

  • Wear a strapless bra.
  • Wear spanx.
  • Be prepared to basically FLASH your bridal consultant, who will help you in and out of dresses
  • Be prepared that your bridal consultant will NOT care that you’re flashing her, because sadly she’s seen it like a dozen times already.
  • Changing in and out of dresses will make you sweaty and cranky.
  • David’s Bridal can be a little bit like a crazy, kinda like the DMV only with lots and LOTS of women.
  • Even though David’s Bridal is like a giant wedding dress farmer’s market, the prices are pretty good.
  • Boutique dress shopping can make you feel poor.
  • There are a lot more “big girl” brides than you’d think… yay 🙂
  • Don’t even make having a “good hair day” a goal on the day you’re trying on dresses. Diving in and out of dresses will surely destroy that do.
  • Even though your hair is a mess, your deodorant is starting to wear off and it’s just occurred to you that you’re probably NOT the first person to try on this dress, wedding dress shopping can make you feel pretty and like, bridal and stuff. 🙂