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Dress Woes

Ok, I’ve been working at a frantic pace at work… working in events for a living means that sometimes working on my own big event takes a back seat. Having recently started a new job, I’ve accepted that it will be this way for a little while, until things die down. So when I get those moments of zen to focus on my own wedding, I get excited.

 

So imagine how pissy I was when that zen was ruined a little bit by Alfred Angelo.

 

Some back story: My wedding dress came in last month, and in gush of excitement, I rushed over to the store with a bridesmaid and friend to pick it up. I could not wait to see it again!
Good thing was, it fit perfectly! Bad thing was, it was stained. Not terrible life-altering stains, but little spots in a few places. The kind that, once seen, cannot be unseen. I stood there in my dress, in the shop, unsure of what to do. Fortunately the store manager took charge and offered to rush order me a new dress. I explained that rushing wasn’t neccessary, but she insisted. I was grateful for the time and attention she was taking to get this right, so I accepted.

 

Two days ago, I got a phone call: new dress is ready! So after a long exhausting week of intense work stuff, I headed back to AA (ha! get it? AA! Or is that a bad joke?) for my moment of zen.

 

The consultant brought the dress out for me to inspect, and I was sure it was going to be fine, but gave it a once-over, just to be on the safe side.

 

What I found was: hair. and dirt. Like my dress had been drug across a dirty floor. When I say hair, I mean HAIR: sticking to the chiffon, woven into the fabric, peeking at me from under the train. It was everywhere. The dirt was loose granules that fell right off when I shook it. I was a little surprised, but didn’t think much of it until I noticed the privacy panel in the back (which was missing from the original dress) was odd-looking, like it had been touched by too many dirty hands. And there was a light pink stain, almost the color of pink lemonade. So weird.

 

So I finally asked, “Did someone try on my dress?”, wondering if maybe there was a bride of similar size that had come in and wanted to try on the style. The consultant looked at my like I was insane.
When I mentioned the hair and the dirt, I got another odd look, and then that patient, tired, expressionless mask came across her face, which tells me that she thinks I’m overreacting. Then she told me that there’s lots of hair in the back and the dress could have picked up hair, and she inspected the dres herself. Now I feel like an a-hole for saying anything. Even though as she’s saying the words, she’s picking a knot of hair out of th dress fabric. I showed here the stains. I felt bad… why was I apologetic???

She told me that since I wasn’t going to be satisfied with the dress, or be convinced that no one had worn it I should just order a new one. So I’m left feeling like an awkward need bride. How crazy is it to have to order a third dress???? That is out of control. I don’t even know what to do. I told her that if they could remove that stains, I’d be fine with that, so for a second time, I left AA without a dress.

 

I’m really bummed, and feeling a little like people would think I’m being a bridezilla. Not once did I yell, raise my voice, or was rude, yet I felt like I was inconveniencing the consultant by pointing out that something was wrong with the order. I just don’t want a dress that already looks like it’s been through some things… I want the dress that I marry D in to be PERFECT. And I sure as hell don’t want it to have some stranger’s hair follicles knotted into the bodice.

 

Am I being crazy???

 

I went dress shopping again! This time, it turned out much better.

My mom, sisters and BFF gathered in Orlando two weekends ago to help me shop for a wedding dress and to select bridesmaid dresses. I arranged for bridal appointments over a motnh in advance – if you’re unfamiliar with my slightly OCD ways, check out this post: http://reneemynette.wordpress.com/2012/06/20/anal-retentive/ to play a little catch up.

The shop I selected – Alfred Angelo in Altamonte Springs – was ah-mazing!!! The consultants were so friendly, the environment was pleasant and welcoming. I complete 180 from my disastrous David’s Bridal experience. I even checked out the bathrooms: spotless.

 

My appointment was blocked for 2 hours, but within the first hour and a half I’d found my dress!  I won’t be posting pics here… if you want to see it you’ll just have to come to the wedding!

Once I found “the dress” I felt like this. Ok, sort of like this only with a FEW more pounds :p

With the dress selected and ordered (big thanks to my mom and dad for helping me out with the 60% down paymenton it – yikes!!) I was ready to look at bridesmaid gowns. We had an “interesting” experience with the dresses… there were comparisons to traffic cones and cupcakes, but it was kinda cool to just sit back and let my bridesmaid twirl around in front of me and show me Alfred’s collection of bridesmaid crazy:

This is a rather sedate pose after she’d originally come out and shown us how she could “shake it like a salt shaker” in her gown! I think it scared the poo boyfriend of the girl in the dressing room next to us. He looked truly traumatized.

This one reminded me of “Little Miss Sunshine”. Remember those? “Little Miss Tacky”, “Mr. Happy”, and the like? More like Little Miss Hot Mess!

After a lot of modelling, we finally found “the one”:

Obviously, this isn’t the color, but just the style. So cute!!

More to come soon – I want to share our 2nd bridal show experience with yall. Think “bridal show meets the jersey shore”. True. Story.

Next 2 items on the list: Booking the cruise and Save the Date invites. Things are slowly coming together!!!

Ha!

I think I just accidentally started a sh!t storm for David’s Bridal.

A few weeks back, while Dustyn and I were visiting family in Atlanta, I took the opportunity to schedule a wedding dress shopping expedition, where I learned a few things (see my previous post to find out what I learned from wedding dress shopping). In the process of booking my appointment online with David’s Bridal, I had to create a profile and supply my email address.

BIG mistake. HUGE mistake, actually. I have received non-stop emails from DB ever since. It’s actually been so nonstop that it’s been a bit of a turn off. I finally requested that my email address be removed from DB’s list, and after a suggestion from a recently married cousin, decided to start supplying any future vendors with an email address specifically for wedding stuff. It’s been helpful at filtering out the foolishness and helping me to pinpoint the useful stuff without clogging my personal email.

So even though I requested the DB stop sending me emails, I still occasionally get a few… and it turns out that they apparently shared my information WITHOUT MY PERMISSION to some of their vendors. How do I know that? Because I got an email to my personal email address this evening, from a REALTOR, congratulating me on my upcoming wedding, and offering her services when we were ready to buy our future house. Did I mention that I went dress shopping in Atlanta? We live in Central Florida… hmmph.

What I also noticed was that the realtor sent the email to about 24 other brides… because she copied them all on the email. Not blind copied, just pasted their email addresses right into the “To” field next to mine.

In my irritation, I wrote the following email:

Subject: Re: David’s Bridal
Wow. I have already asked twice to be removed from all David’s Bridal mailing lists, and I  did NOT give David’s Bridal permission to share my info with you. I am not interested in real estate at the moment… Especially since I live in another state. I am sure many of the other women on this email feel the same way, especially since you failed to blind copy us and thusly shared their info without permission as well. Please remove me from your mailing lists and future communications.
Thank you.

I copied the other brides on my email, and I think that’s what egged this bride on:

I completely agree. I did not give permission to email about anything besides my dress. Please remove me from your email list as well. I do not want my information out for everyone to know. I will be calling Davids Bridal tomorrow and calling corporate over this matter. REMOVE ME FROM THE EMAIL LIST!

Yikes. I think she was even madder than me! I feel a little bad for the realtor… not bad enough to retract my email, but I do feel like the firestarter a little bit  **insert sheepish grin here**

This probably comes off like I’m a psycho BrideZilla or something – I’m not, I promise. At least I don’t think of myself as one. It probably also comes off like I’m so crazily maniacal about sharing my person information – I am, but not to the nth degree. At least I don’t think that I am. I have a blog for heaven’s sake, and I share my personal stuff with my friends on Facebook all the time (sometimes in excess – read: farting). I think there’s a fine line between being provided services you need and having a service provider anticipating your needs while you are allowed to selectively sharing your information, and there’s what amounts to selling your info to realtors in a state that you don’t even live in.

It was a hard lesson to learn – weddings is a booming business for people! Having worked in a hotel before, I already knew this, but just forgot. I didn’t think it really applied to us. As I comb through my wedding email inbox, I am reminder that there are companies out there ready to profit from our declaration of love for each other. I don’t mind that so much, I mean everyone has to make a living, I guess I just want to tell them that… well, we aren’t broke, but we’re definitely not loaded. YOU WILL NOT MAKE MUCH MONEY OFF OF US!! Stop sending me your info about venue locations, free floral consultations, dance lessons and officiants. It’s exhausting! I wonder if these folks realized how “Broke Bride On A Budget” I am close to being, if they’d still waste the email to contact me with this stuff.

I also wonder how many other emails like mine that realtor is going to receive.

What I want to look and feel like in my wedding dress.

Things That People Tell You That Might Not Matter:

  • A lot of wedding dresses will not be in your size (that’s ok because everyone there is in the same predicament)
  • “That dress looks great for your body type!” Yeah, if I’m a 65 year old matron renewing my vows… take people’s feedback into consideration, but pick what YOU like.
  • “Wedding dresses should be white!” Eh. I think this is subjective… but my dress will probably be white. LOL.
  • “Bridal consultants are there to help you find the dress of your dreams!” Hmmph. Mine was super helpful, but there were at least two other coordinators that, in their urgency to help other brides almost elbowed me out of the way while I was modelling dresses for my friends.

This is what I probably looked like in my dress.

Things That People Don’t Tell You But Should:

  • Wear a strapless bra.
  • Wear spanx.
  • Be prepared to basically FLASH your bridal consultant, who will help you in and out of dresses
  • Be prepared that your bridal consultant will NOT care that you’re flashing her, because sadly she’s seen it like a dozen times already.
  • Changing in and out of dresses will make you sweaty and cranky.
  • David’s Bridal can be a little bit like a crazy, kinda like the DMV only with lots and LOTS of women.
  • Even though David’s Bridal is like a giant wedding dress farmer’s market, the prices are pretty good.
  • Boutique dress shopping can make you feel poor.
  • There are a lot more “big girl” brides than you’d think… yay 🙂
  • Don’t even make having a “good hair day” a goal on the day you’re trying on dresses. Diving in and out of dresses will surely destroy that do.
  • Even though your hair is a mess, your deodorant is starting to wear off and it’s just occurred to you that you’re probably NOT the first person to try on this dress, wedding dress shopping can make you feel pretty and like, bridal and stuff. 🙂