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Invitations are out!

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Woohoo!!! Guess who’s happy? THIS GIRL.

 

OUR INVITATIONS HAVE STARTED GOING OUT!

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We got a little carried away with the whimsical sea theme, but I’m still pretty pleased.

 

I remember when I first started looking at invitations last July, and how tough it was to communicate, much less create, a vision for what we wanted. At the only time, my only requirement was no hibiscus images – for some reason, several of the stationers I spoke with thought that hibiscus blossoms most accurately represents a destination wedding.

 

After deciding to tackle the invitations ourselves, I was equal parts thrilled and nervous – what if our invitations turned into a “bigger mess than a pile of coat hangers?” (I got that phrase from Lori on Say Yes to the Dress!) So you can imagine it was a big relief to see a finished product that represented our wedding in a cute but still nicely stylized way. I have to hand it to D – he really did pitch in. We were covered in those little rubber glue “booger things plus little bits of blue paper and ink, but we did it!!!

 

By the way – hand-writing each one SEEMS like a great idea until you account to handwriting both the outer envelopes AND the response addresses. My left hand got a workout!!

 

We’re still in the process of getting these out,, so hopefully they will be arriving at their new homes over the next few weeks. And if the address looks a little slanted, please be kind. They were addressed with love… by a person higher than a kite on Elmer’s Rubber Cement 🙂

Wow.

So a few days ago, I posted about how my contact information had been unknowingly shared with a realtor via David’s Bridal (see: We’re Broke, Our Wedding Isn’t Going to Make You Any Money!). Having asked to be taken off the mailing list, I was VERY surprised to receive the SAME EMAIL from the SAME REALTOR less than 24 hours later.

Now, you might argue that it can take a few days to take someone off a mailing list – this is true. Working with mailing lists at work has taught me a few things, and the emails she is sending are not using “mailing lists”. For one thing, there was no option to unsubscribe, and for another, she wouldn’t have been able to add the email addresses in to the “to field” – it all would have been blind copied. She is simply copying and pasting names into the “to” field on her own email account. Only this time, she got smart and the second go-around she at least used the “bcc” field. Tricksy Baggins (sorry, a Lord of the Rings reference).

Getting the email again got me fired up… so I did what I should have done in the first place. I called the DB store and asked for the store manager. I told her what was going on, how I did not give them permission to share my info with a REALTOR, and how inappropriate and unprofessional this was. Clearly this store manager has taken a few customer service classes: she listened to my situation, empathized with how frustrated I was, apologized for the inconvenience and took immediate action.

She was unsure how a realtor got on their vendor list in the first place, but she assured me that she would contact corporate and have her removed, and would make sure that I did not receive future emails to my personal email address. Bam. Problem solved.

I feel a bit bad for realtor lady – she was just trying to drum up some business – but the tenor of her approach was inappropriate, and I think she needs a few lessons on how to network. Gaining contact by stalking future brides via email is out of control, but she’s not the only guilty party – someone within David’s Bridal allowed this to happen. I don’t know if my complaints ruined her relationship with the store. Should I feel guilty??

What I want to look and feel like in my wedding dress.

Things That People Tell You That Might Not Matter:

  • A lot of wedding dresses will not be in your size (that’s ok because everyone there is in the same predicament)
  • “That dress looks great for your body type!” Yeah, if I’m a 65 year old matron renewing my vows… take people’s feedback into consideration, but pick what YOU like.
  • “Wedding dresses should be white!” Eh. I think this is subjective… but my dress will probably be white. LOL.
  • “Bridal consultants are there to help you find the dress of your dreams!” Hmmph. Mine was super helpful, but there were at least two other coordinators that, in their urgency to help other brides almost elbowed me out of the way while I was modelling dresses for my friends.

This is what I probably looked like in my dress.

Things That People Don’t Tell You But Should:

  • Wear a strapless bra.
  • Wear spanx.
  • Be prepared to basically FLASH your bridal consultant, who will help you in and out of dresses
  • Be prepared that your bridal consultant will NOT care that you’re flashing her, because sadly she’s seen it like a dozen times already.
  • Changing in and out of dresses will make you sweaty and cranky.
  • David’s Bridal can be a little bit like a crazy, kinda like the DMV only with lots and LOTS of women.
  • Even though David’s Bridal is like a giant wedding dress farmer’s market, the prices are pretty good.
  • Boutique dress shopping can make you feel poor.
  • There are a lot more “big girl” brides than you’d think… yay 🙂
  • Don’t even make having a “good hair day” a goal on the day you’re trying on dresses. Diving in and out of dresses will surely destroy that do.
  • Even though your hair is a mess, your deodorant is starting to wear off and it’s just occurred to you that you’re probably NOT the first person to try on this dress, wedding dress shopping can make you feel pretty and like, bridal and stuff. 🙂