Archive for April, 2012


Engagement announcements are now ordered!! Yippee!!!

It’s a little thing, but still it’s a step.

We have toyed with the idea of creating our own engagement cards, going to Wal-Mart to print them, using Staples, Shutterfly, Walgreens… it was all too much. We could never come to a consensus on what to do! Each option had its pros and cons.

Last night, while randomly surfing through his Living Social offers, D came across an offer for http://www.simplytoimpress.com. It was for $40 worth of cards for only $15. We jumped on it! Within minutes we’d created and ordered our cards – something that we’d agonized over for weeks boiled down to literally less than 30 minutes.Dustyn joked that we must have finally hit the “easy button” of Staples fame… it could not have been easier.

So far I highly recommend Simply To Impress. Once we get the cards later this week we’ll see, but the proof looks awesome. I posted the proof on pinterest this morning (being sick at home, not a lot to do!) and it has already been re-pinned about 25 times! Wow!!

Anyway, like I said, it was awesome to have one task down in the 80,000 tasks we have for this wedding. Next stop – engagement photos and saved the date cards!

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Wow.

So a few days ago, I posted about how my contact information had been unknowingly shared with a realtor via David’s Bridal (see: We’re Broke, Our Wedding Isn’t Going to Make You Any Money!). Having asked to be taken off the mailing list, I was VERY surprised to receive the SAME EMAIL from the SAME REALTOR less than 24 hours later.

Now, you might argue that it can take a few days to take someone off a mailing list – this is true. Working with mailing lists at work has taught me a few things, and the emails she is sending are not using “mailing lists”. For one thing, there was no option to unsubscribe, and for another, she wouldn’t have been able to add the email addresses in to the “to field” – it all would have been blind copied. She is simply copying and pasting names into the “to” field on her own email account. Only this time, she got smart and the second go-around she at least used the “bcc” field. Tricksy Baggins (sorry, a Lord of the Rings reference).

Getting the email again got me fired up… so I did what I should have done in the first place. I called the DB store and asked for the store manager. I told her what was going on, how I did not give them permission to share my info with a REALTOR, and how inappropriate and unprofessional this was. Clearly this store manager has taken a few customer service classes: she listened to my situation, empathized with how frustrated I was, apologized for the inconvenience and took immediate action.

She was unsure how a realtor got on their vendor list in the first place, but she assured me that she would contact corporate and have her removed, and would make sure that I did not receive future emails to my personal email address. Bam. Problem solved.

I feel a bit bad for realtor lady – she was just trying to drum up some business – but the tenor of her approach was inappropriate, and I think she needs a few lessons on how to network. Gaining contact by stalking future brides via email is out of control, but she’s not the only guilty party – someone within David’s Bridal allowed this to happen. I don’t know if my complaints ruined her relationship with the store. Should I feel guilty??

Ha!

I think I just accidentally started a sh!t storm for David’s Bridal.

A few weeks back, while Dustyn and I were visiting family in Atlanta, I took the opportunity to schedule a wedding dress shopping expedition, where I learned a few things (see my previous post to find out what I learned from wedding dress shopping). In the process of booking my appointment online with David’s Bridal, I had to create a profile and supply my email address.

BIG mistake. HUGE mistake, actually. I have received non-stop emails from DB ever since. It’s actually been so nonstop that it’s been a bit of a turn off. I finally requested that my email address be removed from DB’s list, and after a suggestion from a recently married cousin, decided to start supplying any future vendors with an email address specifically for wedding stuff. It’s been helpful at filtering out the foolishness and helping me to pinpoint the useful stuff without clogging my personal email.

So even though I requested the DB stop sending me emails, I still occasionally get a few… and it turns out that they apparently shared my information WITHOUT MY PERMISSION to some of their vendors. How do I know that? Because I got an email to my personal email address this evening, from a REALTOR, congratulating me on my upcoming wedding, and offering her services when we were ready to buy our future house. Did I mention that I went dress shopping in Atlanta? We live in Central Florida… hmmph.

What I also noticed was that the realtor sent the email to about 24 other brides… because she copied them all on the email. Not blind copied, just pasted their email addresses right into the “To” field next to mine.

In my irritation, I wrote the following email:

Subject: Re: David’s Bridal
Wow. I have already asked twice to be removed from all David’s Bridal mailing lists, and I  did NOT give David’s Bridal permission to share my info with you. I am not interested in real estate at the moment… Especially since I live in another state. I am sure many of the other women on this email feel the same way, especially since you failed to blind copy us and thusly shared their info without permission as well. Please remove me from your mailing lists and future communications.
Thank you.

I copied the other brides on my email, and I think that’s what egged this bride on:

I completely agree. I did not give permission to email about anything besides my dress. Please remove me from your email list as well. I do not want my information out for everyone to know. I will be calling Davids Bridal tomorrow and calling corporate over this matter. REMOVE ME FROM THE EMAIL LIST!

Yikes. I think she was even madder than me! I feel a little bad for the realtor… not bad enough to retract my email, but I do feel like the firestarter a little bit  **insert sheepish grin here**

This probably comes off like I’m a psycho BrideZilla or something – I’m not, I promise. At least I don’t think of myself as one. It probably also comes off like I’m so crazily maniacal about sharing my person information – I am, but not to the nth degree. At least I don’t think that I am. I have a blog for heaven’s sake, and I share my personal stuff with my friends on Facebook all the time (sometimes in excess – read: farting). I think there’s a fine line between being provided services you need and having a service provider anticipating your needs while you are allowed to selectively sharing your information, and there’s what amounts to selling your info to realtors in a state that you don’t even live in.

It was a hard lesson to learn – weddings is a booming business for people! Having worked in a hotel before, I already knew this, but just forgot. I didn’t think it really applied to us. As I comb through my wedding email inbox, I am reminder that there are companies out there ready to profit from our declaration of love for each other. I don’t mind that so much, I mean everyone has to make a living, I guess I just want to tell them that… well, we aren’t broke, but we’re definitely not loaded. YOU WILL NOT MAKE MUCH MONEY OFF OF US!! Stop sending me your info about venue locations, free floral consultations, dance lessons and officiants. It’s exhausting! I wonder if these folks realized how “Broke Bride On A Budget” I am close to being, if they’d still waste the email to contact me with this stuff.

I also wonder how many other emails like mine that realtor is going to receive.

What I want to look and feel like in my wedding dress.

Things That People Tell You That Might Not Matter:

  • A lot of wedding dresses will not be in your size (that’s ok because everyone there is in the same predicament)
  • “That dress looks great for your body type!” Yeah, if I’m a 65 year old matron renewing my vows… take people’s feedback into consideration, but pick what YOU like.
  • “Wedding dresses should be white!” Eh. I think this is subjective… but my dress will probably be white. LOL.
  • “Bridal consultants are there to help you find the dress of your dreams!” Hmmph. Mine was super helpful, but there were at least two other coordinators that, in their urgency to help other brides almost elbowed me out of the way while I was modelling dresses for my friends.

This is what I probably looked like in my dress.

Things That People Don’t Tell You But Should:

  • Wear a strapless bra.
  • Wear spanx.
  • Be prepared to basically FLASH your bridal consultant, who will help you in and out of dresses
  • Be prepared that your bridal consultant will NOT care that you’re flashing her, because sadly she’s seen it like a dozen times already.
  • Changing in and out of dresses will make you sweaty and cranky.
  • David’s Bridal can be a little bit like a crazy, kinda like the DMV only with lots and LOTS of women.
  • Even though David’s Bridal is like a giant wedding dress farmer’s market, the prices are pretty good.
  • Boutique dress shopping can make you feel poor.
  • There are a lot more “big girl” brides than you’d think… yay 🙂
  • Don’t even make having a “good hair day” a goal on the day you’re trying on dresses. Diving in and out of dresses will surely destroy that do.
  • Even though your hair is a mess, your deodorant is starting to wear off and it’s just occurred to you that you’re probably NOT the first person to try on this dress, wedding dress shopping can make you feel pretty and like, bridal and stuff. 🙂

We’re ready to sail and say “I Do!”

Welcome to our wedding website! We are both tremendously excited to be sharing this with our family and friends. We’re still getting used to saying “fiance” and “fiancee” when referring to each other without giggling or grinning profusely. Yeah, we’re that kinda mushy couple. Don’t judge.

We’ve decided on a Disney Cruise Line wedding, with a stop on Castaway Cay for the actual ceremony. Tentative date is set for September 22nd, 2013. More details to come soon as we fill them in 🙂

I know what you’re thinking… how corny is a Disney Cruise Line Wedding??? Why are you having a Mickey Mouse Wedding? Well since you guys all know us, you know it’s probably about as corny as we are (which is a lot)! We both do enjoy Disney, but the decision had more to do with the package offered by DCL in comparison to a lot of other cruise lines. We also felt that the venue (Castaway Cay) would be a beautiful setting for the beginning of our marriage. It will be an incredible experience and we are over-the-moon, wet our pants thrilled about making some wonderful, incredibly hilarious and slightly tearful  memories with our family and friends over the course of the 4-day cruise.

Oh, and we promise that neither Mickey, Minnie, Goofy or Donald will be participating in our ceremony! It’s not that kind of party. That would be some serious overkill.

Even if you cannot make it to the cruise with us, we hope that you will join our journey to this momentous day. So relax, take off your shoes, and browse through our site. Feel free to drop a line or two… or three. We don’t mind!! As we go through the planning process we will continue to update this page with our experience planning a destination wedding. I have a feeling it will be like many other parts of the journey Dustyn and I have taken so far: equal parts sweet, inspiring, and very very funny.

Cheers!

– Renee (the Bride! I still can’t get used to saying that!)